I’ve heard boundaries described as rowing your own boat and letting others row theirs. When I first realized my son was using alcohol and drugs, I immediately abandoned my boat and jumped into his to take over the oars.
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Pre/Post Finding Al-Anon
I dealt for years with the disease of alcoholism and learned all the wrong things to do while loving an alcoholic. Its effect on me was so horrific I became a very angry, lost, and hopeless person. Any conversation with my alcoholic ended up with me just yelling. I lied to friends and family, covering up the issues at home.